“The ideal supplement for your introductory aging or social gerontology courses, Worlds of Difference, Third Edition, is the only book for undergraduates that addresses the diversity of aging experiences in society by race, gender and social class. “The virtue of this book is that it makes a multicultural, systems of inequality approach to the study of aging accessible to students and it does so by letting people from privileged as well as disadvantaged perspectives speak for themselves”…. Robin Moremen, Northern Illinois University.”
Chapter 38: A Place for Mother
A Place for Mother
Remember how you once went shopping
for the right nursery school
and when the teacher asked you if your child was toilet trained
you lied and said she was.
Use the same strategy
in shopping for a nursing home.
Later—when you are told
of Mother's incontinence—
you will clench your fist and shout:
“What have you done to my mother?”
Have a daughter-to-mother talk.
Ask her what she wants.
If she doesn't know
ask her if she's happy.
She will either say
she doesn't know
or she will be silent.
Tell her how much you love her.
Promise you won't forsake her.
Place One has an eight-year waiting list.
Place Two has a nursing home odor.
Place Three is in a bad neighborhood.
Place Four is in another city.
Place Five won't take medicaid.
Place Six takes only terminal ...