Shifting our thinking to help break the cycle of bullying We all know bullying impacts the academic and emotional lives of our young people. We see it in our schools and hear about it in the news. If we know it’s a problem, why is it still happening? Often it’s because we fail to address the individuals at the heart of the problem–the kids who engage in the behavior. In Working With Kids Who Bully Walter Roberts challenges us to shift our thinking about these youth and offers innovative approaches to help kids pull back from and stop bullying. Readers will find • Information on a range of topics impacting schools today, including cyberbullying, relational aggression, mediation, building empathy, and bibliomedia therapy • Strategies and sample dialogue to use when intervening with kids who bully • Diagrams and charts to clarify suggested approaches Written by one of the nation’s foremost experts on bullying, this is a book designed to stimulate change and ultimately help create safer learning environments for all kids. “Lots of times we focus on helping the victims, but Walter Roberts addresses how to help parents of children who are bullying, as they need tips rather than ‘shaming.” Brigitte Tennis, Headmistress & Eighth Grade Teacher Stella Schola Middle School “The strengths of Working With Kids Who Bully are the vignettes posed, the reflection for analyzing the “bullying” situation, and the suggestions, almost specific guidance, for responding in a timely and “empathetic” manner.” Dana Salles Trevethan, Interim Superintendent Turlock Unified School District
Chapter 20: When All Else Fails
When All Else Fails
[Page 244]In the end, when all avenues of restorative and remediative efforts have not worked in attempting to resolve and correct the misbehavior of those who bully, the only option left may be some sort of punitive discipline, including the removal of the individual engaging in the offending behavior from the setting in which it occurs.
Suspension from organizational activities and privileges should be a last resort for any child. The removal of a student from an educational endeavor places that individual at risk for any host of additional dangers. Unsupervised time is a calling card for mischief.
The Problem With Suspensions—Disproportionality
Out-of-school suspensions have been proven to exhibit disproportionality in who is impacted most. The facts are clear: Nonmajority ...