Shifting our thinking to help break the cycle of bullying We all know bullying impacts the academic and emotional lives of our young people. We see it in our schools and hear about it in the news. If we know it’s a problem, why is it still happening? Often it’s because we fail to address the individuals at the heart of the problem–the kids who engage in the behavior. In Working With Kids Who Bully Walter Roberts challenges us to shift our thinking about these youth and offers innovative approaches to help kids pull back from and stop bullying. Readers will find • Information on a range of topics impacting schools today, including cyberbullying, relational aggression, mediation, building empathy, and bibliomedia therapy • Strategies and sample dialogue to use when intervening with kids who bully • Diagrams and charts to clarify suggested approaches Written by one of the nation’s foremost experts on bullying, this is a book designed to stimulate change and ultimately help create safer learning environments for all kids. “Lots of times we focus on helping the victims, but Walter Roberts addresses how to help parents of children who are bullying, as they need tips rather than ‘shaming.” Brigitte Tennis, Headmistress & Eighth Grade Teacher Stella Schola Middle School “The strengths of Working With Kids Who Bully are the vignettes posed, the reflection for analyzing the “bullying” situation, and the suggestions, almost specific guidance, for responding in a timely and “empathetic” manner.” Dana Salles Trevethan, Interim Superintendent Turlock Unified School District
Part I: CURRENT AND NEW PERSPECTIVES ON BULLYING BEHAVIORS
- Chapter 1: Why a Book on Those Who Bully?
- Chapter 2: Understanding Those Who Bully
- Chapter 3: What ExactlyIsBullying Today?
- Chapter 4: Relational Aggression
- Chapter 5: The Law and Bullying Behaviors
Part II: WORKING WITH THOSE WHO ENGAGE IN BULLYING BEHAVIORS
- Chapter 6: Will This Stuff Work?
- Chapter 7: Essential Skills for Interveners
- Chapter 8: Making the Communication and Relational Connection
- Chapter 9: Forced Apologies and Mediations
- Chapter 10: Applying Elements of Restorative Justice Techniques With Those Who Engage in Bullying Behaviors
- Chapter 11: Building Empathy Within Those Who Bully
- Chapter 12: Thought Before Action: Slowing Down Impulsive Behaviors
- Chapter 13: Morality as a Component of Bullying Prevention
- Chapter 14: Dealing With the Demon That Is Anger
- Chapter 15: When Bullies Live in Space
- Chapter 16: Bystanders or Upstanders?
- Chapter 17: Engaging the Parent
- Chapter 18: Documentation
- Chapter 19: Bibliomedia Therapy
- Chapter 20: When All Else Fails
- Chapter 21: Potholes, Gravel, and Road Tar