This eclectic collection of essays reflects the far-reaching, multi-dimensional influence of Christopher Bollas. Bollas galvanises our understanding of what happens when people encounter the objects - the endlessly variegated content - of external reality. Each of us has our own unique idiom through which we endow objects - a painting, a football, a stranger - with special meaning. Bollas has added depth to our understanding of these relationships with vitality rarely found in psychoanalytic writing. The contributors to this volume offer definitions and illustrations that make Bollas' thought accessible for those approaching his work for the first time and illuminating for those more familiar with his canon. The Vitality of Objects reveals the possibilities for self-expression and growth that figure in the process of object relations and shows how and why thinkers and artists from so many different perspectives are attracted to Bollas' thought.
Chapter 5: ‘Love is Where it Finds You’: The Caprices of the ‘Aleatory Object’
‘Love is Where it Finds You’: The Caprices of the ‘Aleatory Object’
‘He never loved at all who loved not at first sight.’1
In Being a Character, following as it does so many previous uniquely creative works, Christopher Bollas (1992) gives birth to ...