The Therapist's Toolbox is like taking several years of seminars and reading a book or two. It is a time-saving and cost effective manual full of tried-and-tune techniques for enhancing therapeutic intervention with clients, written by a discerning and seasoned practitioner.
Aimed at practice with individual adults and couples, this manual is a collection of nonsense, helpful techniques drawn from Susan E. Carrell's vast experience throughout her career. Each technique is complete and easy to implement in a single session. The author's jargon-free, down-to-earth writing style makes each technique easy to understand and effective to use. Carrell provides treatment objective and diagnostic aids to help the clinician meet requirements for treatment planning, as well extensive examples from her own practice.
Chapter 20: Enmeshment: Deconstructing the Net
Enmeshment: Deconstructing the Net
Therapists wear many hats. Depending on the circumstance, we are coaches, advisors, consultants, mentors, referees, tribal elders, mediators, spiritual directors, and paid companions. In this technique, the therapist is a teacher.
Enmeshment is one of the most common and complicating dynamics of the human condition. The phenomenon occurs in the most well-meaning people with the best of intentions. Not only is it indicative of individual personality constructs, but it also reflects many cultural influences, including gender stereotypes, parenting models, intimacy myths, and religious teachings.
When I talk about enmeshment, I am not talking about the mutually beneficial relationship that occurs when human beings need each other. Nor do I think independence should be valued above all as a sign of ...