‘Over 20 years Dr Nigel Mellor has developed strategies that … effectively change the child's behaviour’ – The Independent
‘Full of hope … for parents [in] a desperate world. Advice is given with understanding, warmth and a real appreciation of what life is like when you have an impossible child’ – Times Educational Supplement
‘A very practical, down-to-earth and humorous approach… techniques that harassed parents can use… this book is impressive’ – Educational Psychology in Practice
‘Extremely useful… I recommend this book as a manual for parenthood. Humour makes it an entertaining, yet informative read’ – The Teacher
‘Highly enjoyable…delivers key messages superbly well… points are delivered with warmth and sensitivity’ – British Journal of Special Education
‘Nigel Mellor's] techniques will help you to turn your child from a monster into an angel’ – Daily Express
‘Who's pulling the strings? … Strategies [for] exasperated parents’ – Yorkshire Post
‘They are driving parents mad … but there is a consistent approach that helps’ – Birmingham Post
‘Back to your granny's wise words - the book is packed with real life examples … [from] families and their moments of sheer desperation’ – Sheffield Star
‘The parents [Dr Mellor] sees are in a terrible state … [his] help is practical and focused on the future rather than past mistakes’ – Newcastle Journal
‘I immediately felt a lot of empathy. All in all an excellent book’ – Special
‘Up-front and practical approach to this all-encompassing challenge’ – Education and Health
‘A very valuable resource’ – Children are Unbeatable Alliance
‘Empowers parents … would be ideal at parent workshops’ – Special Needs Information Press
‘A panacea for many parents … an immensely readable book’ – Young Minds
‘Nigel Mellor's easy-going and empathetic style of writing [is] both refreshing and eminently readable … the book is shot through with humour, modesty and encouragement and I highly recommend it’ – Contact a Family
‘This unique book provides… a practical guide packed with step-by- step instructions backed by a wealth of examples drawn from real families’ – My Weekly.
‘Insightful instruction … Nigel Mellor is an expert in attention seeking … timely and well written’ – Metro
The author of the best-selling book, Attention Seeking, gets right to the heart of these topics in a way that readers can quickly grasp.
Each topic is explained and followed by a discussion and advice on ways to troubleshoot the problem. Topics covered include:
misbehaviour; praise; punishment; ignoring.
The book provides parents, teachers and psychologists with a user-friendly, practical guide to the perplexing problem of attention seeking. Sharing this book will allow parents and professionals to go forward and plan for improved behaviour.
The good the bad and the irritating
We are still dealing with only one half of the approach in this chapter, one “blade” of the scissors if you like: what to do about misbehaviour. In the last two chapters we considered in depth how to ignore the minor annoyances, to cut down on the attention given to them. Certain behaviours push us to the limit, however, particularly if they are dangerous or destructive or violent. We may finally decide that some form of punishment is called for. Unfortunately this is also difficult to carry out effectively.
No one likes to punish children, so what do we do? We make threats. The child does it again, so we make another threat and put off the punishment. The child then does it again. We ...