Designed for facilitators of groups for physically, emotionally and sexually abused women, this volume examines a programme that focuses on the woman herself and her power to change the course of her life. The book is based on the accumulated experience of the authors and their continuing evaluation of groups they have facilitated over the past eight years. Both material for clients and easy-to-follow scripts for group leaders are included. Educational rather than therapeutic, the programme includes sessions on family roles, boundaries, feelings and assertiveness skills. It is designed to enable abused women to: understand the problem and reality of abuse for the entire family; set realistic goals; become aware of lifelong
Chapter 4: Boundaries and Good-Byes to Old Patterns
Boundaries and Good-Byes to Old Patterns
Session IV Text
Boundaries are limits drawn by each of us that define our separateness, uniqueness, and basic rights. They should not be overstepped. Each individual human being is unique and precious, possessed of a core self that deserves to be separate, sovereign, and independent from anyone else. It is a private core of dignity, self-respect, and a sense of one's own worth and identity (see Figure 4.1). It belongs only to oneself. From her understanding of rights, each woman develops [Page 72]her own boundaries around this private territory. Boundaries are not a wall against the world; they are an open door for loving yourself and for healthy relationships.
Figure 4.1. Healthy Core and Boundaries
Understanding and ...