Designed for facilitators of groups for physically, emotionally and sexually abused women, this volume examines a programme that focuses on the woman herself and her power to change the course of her life. The book is based on the accumulated experience of the authors and their continuing evaluation of groups they have facilitated over the past eight years. Both material for clients and easy-to-follow scripts for group leaders are included. Educational rather than therapeutic, the programme includes sessions on family roles, boundaries, feelings and assertiveness skills. It is designed to enable abused women to: understand the problem and reality of abuse for the entire family; set realistic goals; become aware of lifelong
Chapter 14: Changed Patterns
Session XIV Text
When one arrives at this point in Pattern Changing, it is interesting to look again at the “Pattern Changing Outcome Goals for Participants” (see Appendix) from Session I. If you have kept a journal during the program, it too will help you recognize your progress. “Your Bill of Rights” is becoming a daily guideline in defining values and making reasoned decisions. You understand the abuse problem and family dynamics that are involved and are particularly aware of the fact that abuse is about control and is 100% the abuser's problem. You no longer think you are responsible for it in any way, and you know that no one deserves to be abused. You are well aware that [Page 193]when ...