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Designed for facilitators of groups for physically, emotionally and sexually abused women, this volume examines a programme that focuses on the woman herself and her power to change the course of her life. The book is based on the accumulated experience of the authors and their continuing evaluation of groups they have facilitated over the past eight years. Both material for clients and easy-to-follow scripts for group leaders are included. Educational rather than therapeutic, the programme includes sessions on family roles, boundaries, feelings and assertiveness skills. It is designed to enable abused women to: understand the problem and reality of abuse for the entire family; set realistic goals; become aware of lifelong
Chapter 9: Boundary Setting Using Assertiveness Skills 3: Requests and Authority Figures
Boundary Setting Using Assertiveness Skills 3: Requests and Authority Figures
Session IX Text
Why is Making a Request so Hard?
It is Hard Because we Lack Self-Worth
Women in past Pattern Changing groups have told us that making a request is one of the most difficult assertiveness skills for them to practice. It is difficult for many reasons, but primarily because we tend to think we are not worthy enough to make a request of another person. Of course, we are worthy and need to treat ourselves as such. It is helpful to look again at “Your Bill of Rights” and remember that [Page 141]you have the right to make any request. In so doing, you also assume the ...