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Chapter 8: Boundary Setting Using Assertiveness Skills 2: Techniques
Your initial adventures into setting boundaries using assertiveness skills require preparation and forethought. When you are feeling uncomfortable or unhappy about a situation and you decide that you need to set a boundary, the following rules may be helpful. Specific techniques are explained in the next section.[Page 132]
- Determine what your goals are. Exactly what do you want to accomplish or change?
- Choose your wording carefully, use an “I” statement where appropriate, and be brief.
- Practice your statement alone, in the mirror, or with a friend.
- Address the situation as soon as possible. The longer you postpone setting a boundary, the harder the situation will be to change.