Designed for facilitators of groups for physically, emotionally and sexually abused women, this volume examines a programme that focuses on the woman herself and her power to change the course of her life. The book is based on the accumulated experience of the authors and their continuing evaluation of groups they have facilitated over the past eight years. Both material for clients and easy-to-follow scripts for group leaders are included. Educational rather than therapeutic, the programme includes sessions on family roles, boundaries, feelings and assertiveness skills. It is designed to enable abused women to: understand the problem and reality of abuse for the entire family; set realistic goals; become aware of lifelong
Chapter 8: Boundary Setting Using Assertiveness Skills 2: Techniques
Boundary Setting Using Assertiveness Skills 2: Techniques
Session VIII Text
Rules for Assertiveness
Your initial adventures into setting boundaries using assertiveness skills require preparation and forethought. When you are feeling uncomfortable or unhappy about a situation and you decide that you need to set a boundary, the following rules may be helpful. Specific techniques are explained in the next section.[Page 132]
- Determine what your goals are. Exactly what do you want to accomplish or change?
- Choose your wording carefully, use an “I” statement where appropriate, and be brief.
- Practice your statement alone, in the mirror, or with a friend.
- Address the situation as soon as possible. The longer you postpone setting a boundary, the harder the situation will be to change.