Designed for facilitators of groups for physically, emotionally and sexually abused women, this volume examines a programme that focuses on the woman herself and her power to change the course of her life. The book is based on the accumulated experience of the authors and their continuing evaluation of groups they have facilitated over the past eight years. Both material for clients and easy-to-follow scripts for group leaders are included. Educational rather than therapeutic, the programme includes sessions on family roles, boundaries, feelings and assertiveness skills. It is designed to enable abused women to: understand the problem and reality of abuse for the entire family; set realistic goals; become aware of lifelong
Chapter 7: Boundary Setting using Assertiveness Skills 1: Myth and Reality
Boundary Setting using Assertiveness Skills 1: Myth and Reality
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What is Assertiveness Skills Training?
Assertiveness skills training teaches us how to set and enforce boundaries. These skills need to be taught or modeled and, once learned, can lead to a successful feeling of control and empowerment. The use of assertiveness skills helps reverse the cycle of abuse, frustration, and low self-esteem that occurs when one cannot claim rights or set boundaries (see Figure 7.1).
As we begin, it is essential to review “Your Bill of Rights” because assertiveness is the way to enforce them. These rights should belong to everyone, and assertiveness does not violate, but rather helps us respect the rights of others.[Page 114]
Figure 7.1. Nonassertiveness ...