At the beginning of your association with a mentee, discuss the objectives of the relationship. Sort out roles, boundaries, expectations, and processes. Clarify issues of confidentiality. If there is disagreement, or if you do not know the answer to a question, present your position and feelings honestly so that there will be no false assumptions.
If you are thwarted in attempts to bring about a change in your mentee or in the mentoring process, try the following:
- Define the desired change using specific, measurable terms.
- List everything you can think of that is resisting or getting in the way of that change.
- List everything you can think of that is helping or can help that change ...