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Representing an entirely new approach to domestic violence interventions, this book is based on data accumulated by the authors over the past 12 years from a series of qualitative studies and clinical practice with battered women and their batterers.
Chapter 5: From Emotions in Violence to Violent Emotions
From Emotions in Violence to Violent Emotions
Intimate violence is a highly emotional phenomenon, and therefore, it cannot be fully understood without examining it's emotional base (Denzin, 1984, 1989). It is well confirmed that the experience of acting violently is invariably accompanied by a deep sense of loss. Of course, every loss is a loss of what was “mine.” For the violent man, the loss is not only of love but also of the ability to control his partner. Paradoxically, continuous violence reiterates for him the ever-increasing loss inherent in trying to regain her by force. For the woman, violence is loss of love, trust, and hope. Clearly, these losses are not easily recoupable for both of them. They ...