Locked in a Violent Embrace
Publication Year: 2000
Representing an entirely new approach to domestic violence interventions, this book is based on data accumulated by the authors over the past 12 years from a series of qualitative studies and clinical practice with battered women and their batterers.
- Front Matter
- Back Matter
- Subject Index
- Chapter 1: Introduction: Constructing the Script
- Chapter 2: The Violent Event: From Violent Incidents to Violent Rituals
- Chapter 3: In Search of Paradise Lost: The Aftermath of Intimate Violence
- Chapter 4: Scripts of Everyday Life
- Chapter 5: From Emotions in Violence to Violent Emotions
- Chapter 6: The Metaphoric Understanding of Violence
- Chapter 7: Accounts of Intimate Violence
- Chapter 8: Public Exposure and Private Meaning: Battered Women's and Battering Men's Interaction with Social Agents
- Chapter 9: Guidelines for Intervention
- Chapter 10: Postscript: The End is the Beginning
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This book is of our own making, and thus we are solely responsible for it's contents. However, in many ways, it is the result of a collective effort by a group of talented and dedicated people, known in Israel as The University of Haifa Research Group on Intimate Violence, who have worked with us over the years on various projects. Their ideas, insights, and feedback are present throughout this book, to such an extent that we often consider our own thinking as the result of this fruitful synthesis.
We wish to extend our special thanks to Ruchama Gusinsky for her extraordinary commitment to this project and for her help in making it into a reality. Her knowledge, sensitivity, and commitment, as well as her reflective ability added depth to our endeavor. We thank Zeev Winstok for his sharpness in helping to analyze mountains of complex qualitative data, reduce it to manageable size, and often, represent it graphically in an intelligible fashion. Our thanks go to Hadas Goldblatt and Dalit Yassour for helping us analyze the data for the chapters on accounts and on emotions, respectively.
We thank the series editors, Professor Claire Rinzetti and Professor Jeffrey Edleson, for making this book possible and for their patient and highly professional comments on earlier drafts of this book. We want to express our gratitude to Professor Rivka Eisikovits whose incisive criticisms on the conceptual aspects of the book added much coherence to the final product.
[Page x]Our language editor, Mr. Yoram Navon, confronted us with the difficulties of writing in a language not our own and joined with us on the difficult journey of trying to create some measure of correspondence between what we meant and what we wrote. If the final product is more readable, it is because of his contribution.
We thank the Harry Frank Guggenheim Foundation for supporting the initial stages of the project and also Professor Edleson for his partnership throughout this project.
We thank the men and women who were our informants and shared with us their lives and hardships, opened their homes, and allowed us to come close to the ways they understood the experiences of intimate violence. Last, we thank our families and children for their patience and support throughout this project. We dedicate this book to our partners and thank them for fulfilling lives in which we have never known the meaning of violence.
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About the Authors[Page 175]
Zvi Eisikovits is a social worker and a criminologist. He was educated at the Hebrew University and received his PhD from the University of Minnesota in social work and youth studies. He is a professor of social work at the University of Haifa School of Social Work and director of the Minerva Center for Youth Studies at the university. His experience in social work includes working with youth in distress, gang work, administration of community centers in poor residential areas, and a series of consulting and policy activities ranging from national to local service development. During the last 15 years, he has been involved in developing national awareness to the plight of battered women and their children. He is the funding director of the Unit for Research and Intervention for Domestic Violence, a model agency that served as the basis for developing a network of similar services nationwide. He is presently conducting the first national survey in Israel on domestic violence and children at risk. His recent research includes a series of studies using a phenomenological perspective and addressing the insider's view of various aspects of intimate violence. He has published tens of articles and coedited edited three books in the areas of intimate violence and knowledge related to youth in distress. He is married, his wife Rivka is a professor of anthropology and education, and he has one adult son who is a lawyer.
[Page 176]Eli Buchbinder is a social worker and a doctoral student at the School of Social Work, The University of Haifa. His experience in social work includes a variety of populations and settings. He has worked with disturbed children in institutional settings, adolescent girls in distress, and couples and families in a couple and family therapy clinic and as a mental health officer in the army. He is one of the founders of the Unit for Research and Intervention for Domestic Violence, the first specialized unit working with domestic violence in Israel, where he has performed individual and group therapy with men who batter and survivors of violence. His experience also includes working with women and children in a battered women's shelter in Haifa. He specializes in qualitative research in the fields of domestic abuse, youth, and social workers’ ways of knowing and professional socialization. He has published numerous articles and chapters in Hebrew and English, most of them with Zvi Eisikovits. He is presently working on his PhD dissertation on battered women's experience of their families of origin. He is married to Goldi, a teacher, and is the father of one daughter.