Life Coaching Skills: How to Develop Skilled Clients
Life Coaching Skills provides a practical introduction to the skills needed to be an effective life coach and incorporates a wide range of practical activities for coaches to use to help their clients develop self-coaching skills. Written by leading skills expert, Richard Nelson-Jones, the book presents a four stage life coaching model based around the core concepts of relating, understanding, changing, and client self-coaching. It explores the central skills of coaching used within the model including establishing the coaching relationship; assessment and goal setting; presentation; demonstration; and consolidation. The main focus of the book is on one-to-one life coaching particularly concerning relationship, work, and health issues.
- Front Matter
- Back Matter
- Subject Index
- Chapter 1: What is Life Coaching?
- Chapter 2: What are Lifeskills?
- Chapter 3: A Skills Model for Life Coaching
- Chapter 4: The Coaching Relationship
- Chapter 5: Skills for Assessment and Setting Goals
- Chapter 6: Presentation Skills
- Chapter 7: Demonstration Skills
- Chapter 8: Consolidation Skills
- Chapter 9: Group Coaching
- Chapter 10: Relationship Skills Coaching
- Chapter 11: Occupation Skills Coaching
- Chapter 12: Health Skills Coaching
- Chapter 13: Ethics in Practice and Training
- Chapter 14: Developing Self-Coaching Skills
© Richard Nelson-Jones 2007
First published 2007
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List of Activities[Page vi]
- Activity 2.1 Assessing My Communication Skills for Coaching 16
- Activity 2.2 Assessing My Mind Skills for Coaching 25
- Activity 3.1 The Life Coaching Model 41
- Activity 4.1 Reflecting Feelings Skills 52
- Activity 5.1 Questioning Skills 64
- Activity 5.2 Feedback Skills 67
- Activity 5.3 Using the Situation—Thoughts—Consequences (STC) Framework 72
- Activity 5.4 Assessing and Agreeing on Life Goals 76
- Activity 6.1 Preparing a Systematic Presentation 83
- Activity 6.2 Assessing My Delivery Skills 85
- Activity 6.3 Using Mind Skills to Manage Presenting Material Anxiety 91
- Activity 7.1 Demonstrating a Communication Skill 102
- Activity 7.2 Demonstrating a Mind Skill 108
- Activity 7.3 Demonstrating a Communication/Action Skill with Accompanying Self-Talk 110
- Activity 8.1 Arranging a Graded Task Plan with a Client 116
- Activity 8.2 Developing Role-playing and Rehearsal Skills 119
- Activity 8.3 Developing Skills for Providing Feedback 127
- Activity 8.4 Developing Skills for Negotiating Homework 134 [Page vii]
- Activity 9.1 Preparing a Life Coaching Group 142
- Activity 9.2 Starting a Coaching Group Session 146
- Activity 9.3 Leading a Coaching Group Session 154
- Activity 10.1 Coaching a client in Reflecting Feelings Skills 159
- Activity 10.2 Relationship Skills Coaching 169
- Activity 11.1 Study Skills Coaching 175
- Activity 11.2 Career Choice Coaching 178
- Activity 11.3 Career Performance Coaching 181
- Activity 12.1 Managing Stress 188
- Activity 12.2 Managing Weight 193
- Activity 12.3 Managing Alcohol 197
- Activity 13.1 Ethical Issues and Dilemmas in Coaching Practice 205
- Activity 13.2 Ethical Issues and Dilemmas in Coach Training 209
- Activity 13.3 Making Decisions about Ethical Issues and Dilemmas 210
- Activity 14.1 Developing Self-Coaching Skills 219
Welcome to Life Coaching Skills: How to Develop Skilled Clients. The following are answers to some questions you may have about the book.What is the Book's Purpose?
This is a practical ‘how to’ book on the skills of being a life coach. Life coaching is a rapidly growing area. It is based on the assumption that possessing good psychological skills can help everyone, not just disturbed people, to lead more satisfactory lives. Life coaching may be seen as having two main areas: coaching for business and coaching for personal life. This book mainly focuses on how to coach clients to lead their personal lives more successfully, though it includes a chapter on occupation skills coaching.For Whom is this Book Intended?
The life coaching market is still in the process of formation. Coaching does not carry the connotations of disturbance attached to counselling and psychotherapy, since just about everyone can improve their life skills. Here are some markets for which the book is suitable:
- coach training courses – an emerging area in a number of academic departments;
- coaching units on other professional courses – for instance, counselling and psychotherapy, school and sports psychology and health-related courses;
- coaching modules on undergraduate courses, such as behavioural science courses; and
- coaching courses for those wanting to develop their life skills.
[Page x]In addition the book can be of interest to:
What are the Book's Contents?
- coaches and others undergoing supervision as part of continuing training and development; and
- helping service professionals – for skills development and for reference purposes.
The first chapter introduces the idea of life coaching and discusses some dimensions of it, including how it differs from counselling and psychotherapy. Chapter 2 looks at lifeskills as consisting of communication/action skills and mind skills, with a comment on feelings and physical reactions. Chapter 3 presents a four-stage life coaching model, the stages being relating, understanding, changing and client self-coaching. In Chapters 4 to 8 some central skills of being a lifeskills coach are presented: namely, coaching relationship; assessment and goal setting; presentation; demonstration; and consolidation. Chapter 9 provides an introduction to life coaching in groups and includes material on preparing groups and leading sessions. Chapters 10 to 12 discuss life coaching in three important areas: relationships, occupation and health. Chapter 13 looks at ethical issues and dilemmas in life coaching and in life coach training. The book's final chapter addresses the issue of how to help clients to develop self-coaching skills. Throughout the book there are practical activities whereby coaching trainees can improve their skills.What Features Does the Book Possess?
Textbook Format This book is intended as an introductory textbook. To date there is very little textbook literature in the area of life coaching.
Comprehensiveness The book contains a description of the present status of life coaching, presents the skills of life coaching and shows the application of life coaching in a number of different areas.
Recency The book incorporates the latest literature about life coaching.
Practical Activities The book includes numerous practical activities to help readers develop their knowledge and skills.
[Page xi]Practical Examples The book contains numerous case studies and vignettes.
Anglo-Australian Emphasis The book emphasizes British and Australian books, articles and research findings as well as some American sources.
Readability I have endeavoured to write the book in clear, simple English.A Final Word
I hope the book helps you to develop your coaching skills and that working with it contributes to making life happier and more fulfilled for you and many others.[Page xii]
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