As my awareness of sexism and, subsequently, other forms of oppression increased, my feelings toward my gay brothers began to change…. I resented the fact that no matter how often and in how many different ways I called them on their misogynistic behaviors, tried to explain how they were hurting me, other lesbians, other women, and themselves, most of them just didn't “get it,” and of the few who did, fewer still were willing to change their behavior.

We gay men are aware of how much we have lost by coming out and how much we're hurt by society's prejudice. [We] have to realize, ...