How do gay men respond to controlling notions of masculinity in society and stereotypes of gay sexuality? This book explores the ways in which gay men in the United States engage in, contest and modify these notions and develop a sense of masculine identity. The book examines the creation of identity through the everyday lives of gay men: their work; home; community; and relationships.
Chapter 4: Gay Male Domestic Violence and the Pursuit of Masculinity
Gay Male Domestic Violence and the Pursuit of Masculinity
When I asked Paul, a 31-year-old hair stylist, to describe any type of violence or abuse he had experienced in a same-sex relationship, he said,
A lot of fights. A lot of violent fights. Then once, he attacked me in the bathroom with a knife and almost cut my finger off. And then the worst was he followed me out of a bar and attacked me and bit my nose off.
I probed and asked for more details regarding this episode and he told me that the incident had occurred after the two men had had an argument at a night club.
It was bitten all the way to the ...