SPECIAL MENTION TES/NASEN BEST ACADEMIC BOOK AWARD `Anna has written a very descriptive book of her feeling and the difficult times she went through as she struggled with anorexia. The book gives advice, recovery ideas and encouragement for those who suffer eating disorders' - International Woman `I enjoyed her style of writing and would certainly recommend this book to anyone interested in eating disorders' - Signpost `Provides a valuable insight into how a young person with an eating disorder thinks and feels' - Contact a Family `The style is clear and engaging and ought to reach young people who are experiencing difficulties. The level of information contained would be of equal value to the families of these young people in helping them understand the emotions of their loved ones' - Educational Psychology Looking in the bathroom mirror for the first time since my illness had begun, I saw how I really looked. I was a walking skeleton, with my skin stretched tight over my bones. My face had become a skull, and when I smiled, it looked like I was wearing a horror mask. Anna has suffered a serious eating disorder and, more importantly, she has recovered! In this book she provides the reader with: " a moving account of her experiences " information about eating disorders " a plan for recovery " HOPE. The book is intended for young people and their families, and all those who care for children at risk.
Chapter 9: Why Do I Feel I Have to Be Perfect?
Why Do I Feel I Have to Be Perfect?
A strong need to be “perfect” is one of the most common characteristics of eating disorder sufferers. This chapter looks at how perfectionism can lead to low self esteem developing.
I talked in an earlier chapter about the idea of ‘perfectionism’ and how people with eating disorders often feel they have to be perfect. Now I want to look at this in more detail and see how this ‘need to be perfect’ can affect everything we do. It affects the way we behave towards people, controls the way we work and even makes us feel scared to show our emotions.
Children who are ‘perfectionists’ are usually high-achievers who have unrealistic ...