'Relate counsellors interested in extending their learning about cognitive therapy will find this manual a comprehensive guide'- Jan Hobbs, Relate News 'An easy-to-read, comprehensive text which provides a practical guide to skills for starting, maintaining and cultivating successful relationships, whether of opposite sexes or the same sex' - The Australian Journal of Counselling Psychology Creating Happy Relationships is written in a comfortable non-academic style, using simple everyday English, and incorporates recent research and theory. In addition to many vignettes of partners creating and cultivating happiness there are plenty of practical activities for improving partner skills. This book is a major resource for prospective partners, couples, for marriage preparation and counselling courses, and human communication and relationship education courses in schools, colleges and universities.
Chapter 5: Creating Visual Images
Creating Visual Images
I have imagination, and nothing that is real is alien to me.
This chapter focuses on creating happiness and avoiding unhappiness by influencing your pictorial mind as contrasted with influencing your verbal mind. Do not underestimate the importance of your visual images. Noted psychotherapist Arnold Lazarus writes: ‘Through the proper use of mental imagery, one can achieve an immediate sense of self-confidence, develop more energy and stamina, and tap into one's own mind for numerous productive purposes’ (1984, p. 3). Also, the proper use of mental imagery can help you improve your partner skills.
Try a simple mind experiment. Think of someone you love, such as your partner. Put down the book and hold the thought for about fifteen seconds. Then ...