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Chapter 16: Managing Relationship Problems
Managing Relationship Problems
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference
This chapter focuses on creating and maintaining happiness in relationships by preventing and managing problems. All partners in relationships crave happiness. Unfortunately, as the high incidence of marital breakdown and distress shows, under the weight of problems many partners fail to maintain the level of happiness created earlier.
Relationship problems can vary in severity, duration and frequency. They can generate more heat than light. In addition, what may seem minor issues from outside may possess symbolic meanings to either or both partners that can create huge rows. Consequently problems are not just matters of ...