'Relate counsellors interested in extending their learning about cognitive therapy will find this manual a comprehensive guide'- Jan Hobbs, Relate News 'An easy-to-read, comprehensive text which provides a practical guide to skills for starting, maintaining and cultivating successful relationships, whether of opposite sexes or the same sex' - The Australian Journal of Counselling Psychology Creating Happy Relationships is written in a comfortable non-academic style, using simple everyday English, and incorporates recent research and theory. In addition to many vignettes of partners creating and cultivating happiness there are plenty of practical activities for improving partner skills. This book is a major resource for prospective partners, couples, for marriage preparation and counselling courses, and human communication and relationship education courses in schools, colleges and universities.
Chapter 14: Enjoying Sex Together
Enjoying Sex Together
Too much of a good thing can be wonderful.
Each couple is responsible for the ways in which they create happiness by means of their own unique sexual relationship. Sensual and sexual intimacy entail the capacity to be comfortable with your own and one another's bodies. You can enjoy physical stimulation and warmth as well as emotional excitement and contentment. Enjoying sex together can range from passionate abandon to pleasurable companionship. Sex can be especially emotionally fulfilling in a loving and committed relationship.
In heterosexual relationships, sexual relating has three functions: procreation (conceiving children), relationship enhancement and recreation (Masters, Johnson and Kolodny, 1986). The relationship enhancement function has many dimensions. For instance, effective sexual relating can promote family stability and lessen ...