'Relate counsellors interested in extending their learning about cognitive therapy will find this manual a comprehensive guide'- Jan Hobbs, Relate News 'An easy-to-read, comprehensive text which provides a practical guide to skills for starting, maintaining and cultivating successful relationships, whether of opposite sexes or the same sex' - The Australian Journal of Counselling Psychology Creating Happy Relationships is written in a comfortable non-academic style, using simple everyday English, and incorporates recent research and theory. In addition to many vignettes of partners creating and cultivating happiness there are plenty of practical activities for improving partner skills. This book is a major resource for prospective partners, couples, for marriage preparation and counselling courses, and human communication and relationship education courses in schools, colleges and universities.
Chapter 13: Sharing Intimacy
I love you ever and ever and without reserve.
The more I have known you, the more I have lov'd.
Happy couples create and cultivate intimacy. You express your love by wanting to know and be known by one another at a deep level. However, at the heart of intimacy exists a tension between partners as separate individuals and your being connected together. Such a tension has the potential to be both a strength and a weakness. Ideally as partners you cherish your own and one another's development as separate selves who then make the whole of your relationship greater than the sum of its parts. Rather than being threatened by one another's separate identity, you see this as the foundation for a ...