'Relate counsellors interested in extending their learning about cognitive therapy will find this manual a comprehensive guide'- Jan Hobbs, Relate News 'An easy-to-read, comprehensive text which provides a practical guide to skills for starting, maintaining and cultivating successful relationships, whether of opposite sexes or the same sex' - The Australian Journal of Counselling Psychology Creating Happy Relationships is written in a comfortable non-academic style, using simple everyday English, and incorporates recent research and theory. In addition to many vignettes of partners creating and cultivating happiness there are plenty of practical activities for improving partner skills. This book is a major resource for prospective partners, couples, for marriage preparation and counselling courses, and human communication and relationship education courses in schools, colleges and universities.
Chapter 12: Showing You Care
Showing You Care
Love seeketh not itself to please,
Nor for itself hath any care,
But for another gives its ease,
And builds a Heaven in Hell's despair.
Showing you care is a fundamental way partners can create happiness in relationships. Humans are capable of reaching for the stars. Humankind is defined not just by its weaknesses and frailties, but by its better qualities and the heights it can attain. Already, in couple relationships, many of you transcend yourselves by cherishing the security, happiness and unfolding of potential of your partners. Furthermore, most parents make huge sacrifices for their children. Selflessly creating happiness for another creates happiness in givers too. Caring can be generous and benevolent rather than selfish and possessive. At its best, showing you ...