This volume is a comprehensive study of parentification in the family—children who fulfill the role of parents to their own parents or to their siblings, almost always at the expense of their own development. The book is divided into two sections: theory and research and contextual perspectives.
Chapter 3: Workaholic Children: One Method of Fulfilling the Parentification Role
Workaholic Children: One Method of Fulfilling the Parentification Role
I asked Sandra how things went during her Thanksgiving holidays. “Not so good,” she replied. “My mama and uncle yelled at me because the turkey didn't turn out right.”
Asked to explain, she said, “I cooked the turkey too long and it was too dry, so they fussed at me. I just went into my room and closed the door and hit my bed and cried.”
I responded, “That's a pretty big job for a 10-year-old.”
Sandra looked at me as if I were half crazy. “I always cook Thanksgiving dinner, 'cause my mama's too drunk!”
Not only does Sandra cook all the meals, she also looks after her 6-year-old sister ...