Previously referred to as The No Blame Approach, the work of George and Barbara has been popular amongst practitioners but criticised by politicians. This publication incorporates an updated edition of their best selling Crying For Help and charts the recent controversy which lead to the removal of the method as a recommended intervention from the DfES website. For those who are interested in understanding, using and evaluating the method, this will provide a clear practical guide and an explanation of the theory underpinning the work.
Chapter 7: What Makes the Process Work?
What Makes the Process Work?
Empathy and Altruism
When we first developed our approach, we were looking for a process that would bring about an empathic response in the bully and the rest of the group. In the majority of cases this happens, and we have often heard words such as these:
‘I knew we weren't being very nice but I never realised just how much it was affecting Michael.’
In some cases the bully may not have any concern for the target, but if some of the group understand the target's pain, they often provide supportive strategies. It may only take one or two people to be friendly to stop the feeling of isolation and pain of the target.
Just One Friend
Before taking ...