Solution-Focused Therapy

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    • 00:01

      [MUSIC]

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      SPEAKER 1: The South Bend Reentry Center is essentiallya prison here in this community thathouses men who are near the end of their prison sentences.Take Ten is a 10 week course that takes themthrough the basics of conflict resolution educationand how to hone some skills that haveto do with more effective communication, better ability

    • 00:37

      SPEAKER 1 [continued]: to relate to others, and de-escalate conflict.Hey, how are you?

    • 00:41

      SPEAKER 2: Good.How are you.

    • 00:42

      SPEAKER 1: Good.So that at the end of the time, theycan picture a life path that is far different and far moresuccessful than the one they had previously.We always start with a fun activity.Some people think of it as more fun than others.And that's an activity called Quick Quotes, whereyou grab an index card with a quotation from a famous person,

    • 01:04

      SPEAKER 1 [continued]: and you discuss how that one's relevant to your life.That should be plenty.

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      SPEAKER 2: Hello.Hi.Come on in.So welcome, everyone.Good to see you again.As we always do, we start our session offwith a fun activity.And this activity is called Quick Quotes.

    • 01:27

      SPEAKER 1: We want you to talk about howthe quote is relevant to your life.Not just what it means, but how itcan relate to something in your life.[LAUGHTER]

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      SPEAKER 3: I see you trying to hide that one,so I'll take that one.The best way to predict your future is to create it.I would take it in the perspective of father sonfigure.Look at how [INAUDIBLE] and on how they live their life.Make sure what they tell you-- listen

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      SPEAKER 3 [continued]: to what they have to say.They're obviously telling you for a reason.

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      SPEAKER 4: The quality of a person's lifeis in direct proportion to their commitmentto excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.Vince Lombardi.The quality of your life is goingto depend on how committed you areto doing whatever it is that you set forth the motion to do,

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      SPEAKER 4 [continued]: and putting effort into whatever it is that you're doing.Then your quality of life will reflect that.The best thing to do is to do whatwe need to do, do it in a positive manner,make adjustments that need to be made,and get home to our families.

    • 02:48

      SPEAKER 1: We've all sort of gotten in a rut oftentimes,and come up with one trajectory.Well, Take Ten teaches you to be able to envisiona different trajectory, a different life road,by the fact that you learn how to make different choices,you learn how to handle yourself in situations differentlythan you have before, and thus itallows you to create your own vision of how your future can

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      SPEAKER 1 [continued]: be different than what it might have beenbefore you encountered our program.[SNAPS FINGERS]

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      SPEAKER 4: Snapping point.

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      SPEAKER 2: Your snapping point.So looking at this list, I'd like everyoneto think of a time where they went aggressive, normallywould go aggressive when one of these things happened,and then to think back when they chose to be assertive instead.

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      SPEAKER 5: We was in prison somewhere elseand some guys that I knew from when we was littlewanted to beat this kid up because theyfelt like he stole some cigarette butts from no one.They didn't belong to no one.I basically talked them out of it and explained to them

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      SPEAKER 5 [continued]: it wasn't that big of a deal.And usually I'm on the other side of the fence with them.And there was a lot of people around that was like, hey,you got a lot of influence on these guysand they listen to you.

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      SPEAKER 4: I think he had it in him.[LAUGHTER]

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      SPEAKER 1: Sometimes you never know till push comes to shove.

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      SPEAKER 4: He's got it in him.

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      SPEAKER 1: In addition to thinkingabout how we've managed to be assertive ratherthan aggressive, think about that that does have influenceover people, and that sometimes that is what you needis another person who isn't quite ashead up in the situation as you are.Or you can be that person.If I go here, bad things start to happen, you know?

    • 04:46

      SPEAKER 3: And people get hurt.

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      SPEAKER 1: And then maybe the bad thingis you end up right here again.Maybe the bad thing is you physically or emotionally harmsomebody you actually to care about.You can't take those things back.Words and actions are things we cannot take back.So if we take a moment to think, maybe I need to give it a week.Maybe I need to back off.

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      SPEAKER 1 [continued]: Maybe I need to not go there and associate with those people.That isn't easy.We always talk about what things areyou going to carry away from Take Ten, whathave you learned that will be a benefit?And they typically tell us thingslike being able to walk away from someone if they need to,being able to choose who they spend time around

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      SPEAKER 1 [continued]: and what kind of situations they put themselves in,and also reminding themselves to take a bit of timebefore they respond to something.Sometimes it's a matter of physicallywalk yourself away from that person.Not forever, but until you have gotten a handle on yourself.Because it's typically that immediate response to somebody

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      SPEAKER 1 [continued]: that gets you in trouble.

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      SPEAKER 4: That's hard.

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      SPEAKER 1: Oh, I know it is.I'm not saying it's easy.But it is the way to de-escalate the conflict.So we're going to do some exercises thathelp practice turning it around when you would normallystart with you always or you never,very accusatory to something that'sa little less likely to escalate the situation.

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      SPEAKER 2: [INAUDIBLE], do you want to go first?

    • 06:19

      SPEAKER 5: Sure.You always dip into my conversationsthat's none of your business, Cameron.[LAUGHTER]I feel agitated.

    • 06:34

      SPEAKER 3: You told me you'd write to me,but I haven't heard from you in over a month,and I'm going to say I feel betrayed.

    • 06:47

      SPEAKER 2: Thank you.

    • 06:50

      SPEAKER 1: This bunch of things all can underlie anger.And a lot of times in a situationlike that, there's a little bit of a couple things.But anger is a secondary emotion.There was an emotion there before the anger.

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      SPEAKER 4: I'm going to jump straight to anger.

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      SPEAKER 1: There's always something there.You might get there that quick, but there's alwayssomething else.There's always something primary that fuels the anger.I mean, this class is about resolving conflict,and resolving it better than you've done that before.And a lot of times when you dwell in the anger, whenyou dwell in that spot in the middle,

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      SPEAKER 1 [continued]: you tend to communicate in a way that just focuses on the anger.

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      SPEAKER 4: And it escalates.

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      SPEAKER 1: And escalates and escalates.You escalate, and the other person or the other people allget on that escalator with you, and you're all trotting upto the top floor of the building.OK.Thank you very much.We will see you in a week.

    • 07:50

      SPEAKER 2: Thank you.

    • 07:51

      SPEAKER 1: The men usually are quick to talkabout the things that get them angryand the situations in which they'll be aggressive,so it's always interesting to see how they think aboutand process what to do to scale back.

    • 08:03

      SPEAKER 2: This was the best questionthat we've had as far as identifyingthose primary emotions.Because people do get lost in the angerand want to just show that they're frustrated,but I really feel we were able to break down and identify.

    • 08:17

      SPEAKER 1: Well, I like the way they did the I statementexercise and really identified the primary emotions.Sometimes the men in this facilityhave a hard time identifying their primary emotion.They over and over again say, well, I feel angry,or I feel pissed off when you do these things,even though we've said, no, we knowyou are, but please think about the primary emotion.

    • 08:40

      SPEAKER 1 [continued]: And this group went to the primary emotion fasterand better than some of the other groups I've had,so it was nice to see them sort of getthe idea that anger is in fact a secondary emotion,and what some of the other emotionsare that lead up to being angry.We teach them some skills that I believethey can use in concrete ways to improve their relationships

    • 09:00

      SPEAKER 1 [continued]: with their significant others, with their children,and even on a job site.When they get out, they don't want to come back.They want to stay out.They want to stay with their families.They don't want to be incarcerated again.One of the men who came through our programand was about to get out-- and hewas very pleased with having taken the course

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      SPEAKER 1 [continued]: and he'd had some other programming--he got and kept a job and he had reunified with his childrenfrom whom he'd been estranged.And he attributed the programmingthat he had taken while incarceratedas why he was able to do those things.So that one was truly a success story,a concrete, improved life success story.

Solution-Focused Therapy

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Ellen Kyes explains the work she does with Take Ten, a program that helps prisoners develop conflict resolution and communication skills.

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Solution-Focused Therapy

Ellen Kyes explains the work she does with Take Ten, a program that helps prisoners develop conflict resolution and communication skills.

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