Crossing Boundaries: Poor Practice & Good Practice

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    • 00:04

      COUNSELOR: So how have you been getting on with Joannasince last week?

    • 00:08

      CLIENT: A little bit better.It's difficult, you know.We just don't-- we just don't see each other often enough,I think.She's working a lot.I'm working a lot.We're both stressed out, really.So-- yeah.It's still quite tough.

    • 00:25

      COUNSELOR: It doesn't sound like you'regetting much time with her.

    • 00:28

      CLIENT: No.I'm not.Well, work is just--well, I mean, you know what Lynch is like.I mean, it's so busy all the time.And there's this possibility that I might have to relocate,in which case it's only going to get busier.And the commute is longer.And you know, I'll end up in a long distance relationship.So I don't really know what to do because I

    • 00:50

      CLIENT [continued]: do love the job, genuinely.But I mean, if I have to move, thenthat's not going to help with anything.

    • 00:58

      COUNSELOR: Well, I used to know someone who worked there.I think his name was John.He was the manager.

    • 01:02

      CLIENT: John?Oh, John Jacobs.Yeah, yeah, yeah.He's-- yeah.He's still the manager there.He's my boss.

    • 01:08

      COUNSELOR: OK.Great.

    • 01:08

      CLIENT: Well, I mean, he's a nice guy.Yeah.

    • 01:10

      COUNSELOR: Yeah.No, no, no.He is.We worked together quite closely a while back.

    • 01:15

      CLIENT: Oh, OK.

    • 01:16

      COUNSELOR: I wonder whether I couldkind of put in a good word for you or something.

    • 01:22

      CLIENT: Well, I mean, would you feel comfortable doing that?

    • 01:25

      COUNSELOR: I could--I'm sure I could just have a chat with him.You know, we go back quite a while.So you know-- I mean, I can't promise anything,but I could obviously ask and, you know, see what he says.

    • 01:35

      CLIENT: Yeah.Well, OK.I mean, as long as you're--I wouldn't want you to do anythingyou're not allowed to do.

    • 01:39

      COUNSELOR: Oh, no.No, it'd be fine.

    • 01:41

      CLIENT: OK.Well, yeah.A Thank you, then, I suppose.Thank you.Yeah.That would be great.

    • 01:49

      COUNSELOR: So how have you been getting on with Joannasince last week?

    • 01:53

      CLIENT: A little bit better.It's difficult, you know.We just don't-- we just don't see each other often enough,I think.She's working a lot.I'm working a lot.We're both quite stressed out, really.So-- yeah.It's still quite tough.

    • 02:10

      COUNSELOR: It doesn't sound like you'regetting much time with her.

    • 02:13

      CLIENT: No.I'm not.Well, work is just--well, I mean, you know what Lynch like.I mean, it's so busy all the time.And there's this possibility that I might have to relocate,in which case it's going to get busier.And the commute is longer.And you know, I'll end up in a long-distance relationship,so I don't really know to do because I

    • 02:36

      CLIENT [continued]: do love the job, genuinely.But I mean, if I have to move, thenthat's not going to help with anything.

    • 02:43

      COUNSELOR: Well, it sounds like you don't want to move.

    • 02:45

      CLIENT: No.

    • 02:46

      COUNSELOR: And I wonder what you can do about that.

    • 02:50

      CLIENT: I don't know.I mean, I haven't really tried talking to John about itthat much.I don't know.He is a nice guy.So maybe he'll react well.I don't know.I just-- I feel like--I feel weird about sort of saying, you know,what a good job I do and how important it

    • 03:12

      CLIENT [continued]: is that I stay here.

    • 03:15

      COUNSELOR: What makes you feel weird about that?

    • 03:17

      CLIENT: I don't know.I just-- lack of confidence, maybe.I don't know, really.I just-- I think he'll think I'm being arrogant, I suppose.

    • 03:27

      COUNSELOR: So you're worried about howyou might come across.I'm wondering what you could do about that.

    • 03:36

      CLIENT: Well, maybe, if I speak to himand show him my work and just explain what'sgoing on at home with Joanna--he's a nice guy.Maybe he'll listen.You know, my record does speak for itself, I guess.

    • 03:53

      COUNSELOR: So you've got some evidence of whereyou've done really well.

    • 03:56

      CLIENT: Yeah.Yeah, I suppose.Yeah, yeah.Yeah, that's true, actually.Yeah.I guess I could present him with that, I suppose.

    • 04:06

      COUNSELOR: You're sounding a bit hesitant about it or tentative.

    • 04:10

      CLIENT: Yeah.It's just a nerve-wracking thing, I think.But-- yeah, maybe.Maybe with some evidence there, actually--you know--

Crossing Boundaries: Poor Practice & Good Practice

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Two examples are shown, one in which a counselor crosses boundaries and one in which she maintains boundaries.

Crossing Boundaries: Poor Practice & Good Practice

Two examples are shown, one in which a counselor crosses boundaries and one in which she maintains boundaries.

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