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In Violent Emotions, Retzinger explores the role of hidden alienation and shame as the source of repetitious cycles of conflict. Theories and research from large-scale conflict, marital disputes, and communication processes are reviewed and provide a background for a new integrative theory developed by the author. In testing her theory of prolonged conflict, Retzinger utilizes complex verbal and nonverbal coding schemes, identifies specific emotions within the context of marital disputes, and points out recurring patterns preceding the escalation of an argument. She provides exemplars of how this theory works through an intensive analysis of conflict exchange in four case studies and uses vivid descriptions to illustrate important points about communication in intimate relationships. Violent Emotions provides much needed data that will be useful for preventive ...
Chapter 4: Rosie and James: Silent Impasse
Rosie and James: Silent Impasse
So that “words may again be the word” and the living truth said, a new language must be created. (Steiner, 1981, p. 185)
Rosie and James (pseudonyms) are a white middle-class couple, ages 32 and 35, respectively. They have been married 11 years. James works for the forestry service and has a $50,000 annual income. Rosie has recently completed a bachelor's degree in social science; she was unemployed at the time of the taping. Neither have had previous marriages; they do not have children.
This is a couple who do not discuss feelings, and who avoid conflict. They distance themselves from each other emotionally; they are isolated. They seem to be uncomfortable with quarrels, avoiding them at all ...