- Subject index
In Violent Emotions, Retzinger explores the role of hidden alienation and shame as the source of repetitious cycles of conflict. Theories and research from large-scale conflict, marital disputes, and communication processes are reviewed and provide a background for a new integrative theory developed by the author. In testing her theory of prolonged conflict, Retzinger utilizes complex verbal and nonverbal coding schemes, identifies specific emotions within the context of marital disputes, and points out recurring patterns preceding the escalation of an argument. She provides exemplars of how this theory works through an intensive analysis of conflict exchange in four case studies and uses vivid descriptions to illustrate important points about communication in intimate relationships. Violent Emotions provides much needed data that will be useful for preventive ...
Chapter 2: Toward a Theory of Conflict
Toward a Theory of Conflict
Always and everywhere men seek honor and dread ridicule. (Cooley, 1909/1962, p. 28)
The idea of the social bond is developed further in this chapter, because of its importance for understanding conflict. The state of the bond may explain escalation, as well as why some relationships are more prone to destructive conflict than others.
The bond in itself is largely invisible, but the kinds of emotions operating in its maintenance are visible; they reveal the state of the bond at any given moment. In a biosocial framework, the primary motive of human behavior is to secure important bonds. Emotions play a central role—intact bonds are flexible, accompanied by pride, joy, and happiness; damaged or threatened bonds are marked ...