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Geoff Pelham

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    About the Author

    Dr Geoff Pelham (MBACP Reg, MA Business and Executive Coaching) is Director of Supervision at PB Coaching, based in Leeds. He is an executive coach and coach supervisor working with people in the public, private and not-for-profit sectors. He is also an accredited psychotherapist. His practice is rooted in relational and existential approaches to therapy and coaching. This background leads to an abiding interest in the psychological dimension of coaching and the possibilities of practitioners developing the capability to work more deeply and effectively with the emotional and relational aspects of coaching. He is particularly involved with the education and training of coaches, delivering Postgraduate, EMCC-accredited programmes in the UK and also at Michael Smurfit Business School, University College Dublin (UCD) in Ireland. In addition to working with individuals he is involved with organisations seeking to introduce and sustain coaching cultures, including the establishment of internal coaching and supervision capability, the challenges facing internal coaches, and the mindset and skills required for managers taking a coaching approach. Geoff’s PhD was in the area of the philosophy of science as applied to the behavioural sciences, and it is from this background that he is interested in, and often critical of, the evidence-based approach to coaching. For the past decade he has been exploring Heideggerian and existential approaches, and is particularly interested in the personal and cultural as a relational field; for example, of mood as a field which is personal but not just personal.

    Acknowledgments

    I would like to thank my partner Jenny Stacey, for her constant support and from whom I have learned so much about relationships. Similarly to my ‘children’, now young adults, Kathryn, Sarah and Jon, who make life special.

    I’d also like to thank colleagues at PB Coaching, whose encouragement has made it possible for me to write this book, and who have been a constant source of support and conversation about the idea I’ve written about here. Particular thanks to Colm Murphy and Yvonne Fagan and colleagues at UCD, from whom I’ve learned so much.

    Special mention for my ‘writing coach’ Andrea Perry, who helped me find the ‘voice’ I wanted for the book, and who both encouraged and challenged me in the style and content of what I’ve written.

    Thanks also to Peter Bluckert, who embodies the gestalt approach, for the many, many conversations in the pub digging deeply into the subjects covered in this book.

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