Managing the Difficult Emotions: A Programme for the Promotion of Emotional Intelligence and Resilience for Young People Aged 12 to 16


Bob Bellhouse, Andrew Fuller, Glenda Johnson & Neil Taylor

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    Life wasn't meant to be easy.

    But take courage, child – for it can be delightful.

    George Bernard Shaw (1856–1950)

    Noble deeds and hot baths are the best cures for depression.

    Dodie Smith (1896–1990)

    Lucky Duck

    Lucky Duck is more than a publishing house and training agency. George Robinson and Barbara Maines founded the company in the 1980s when they worked together as a head and as a psychologist, developing innovative strategies to support challenging students.

    They have an international reputation for their work on bullying, self-esteem, emotional literacy and many other subjects of interest to the world of education. George and Barbara have set up a regular news-spot on the website at: and information about their training programmes can be found at:

    More details about Lucky Duck can be found at:

    Visit the website for all our latest publications in our specialist topics

    • Emotional Literacy
    • Bullying
    • Circle Time
    • Asperger's Syndrome
    • Self-esteem
    • Positive Behaviour Management
    • Anger Management
    • Eating Disorders


    This book was originally published in Australia and was intended for young people to work through alone.

    I liked its humorous, punchy style and with the authors' permission have amended it to suit delivery in schools, youth groups, social service provision – in fact anywhere that adults and young people interact in formal or informal situations.

    I have tried to ensure its flexible approach has not been lost. It will provide resources that engage young people and generate healthy and sometimes heated debate.

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    We have provided examples of front covers that could be provided for young people to complete. This age group might prefer to design their own front cover. There is also an open-ended evaluation form that can be used at any stage of the programme.


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