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Designed to acquaint readers with the most up-to-date information on close relationship theory and research, Facework provides a thorough examination of the authors' research, as well as that of others, on the self-aspects of communication in intimate relationships. Gaining face, maintaining face, and losing face all have numerous implications in the management of close relationships. Cupach and Metts make a compelling case for facework as basic relationship currency at any stage of a relationship, whether it be formation, maintenance, or disengagement. Written in a clear, humorous style, Facework offers the reader a very pleasurable learning experience and the opportunity to gain deeper insight into the management of problematic situations occurring in close relationships. Professionals and scholars in psychology, sociology, communication, family studies, and social work will find Facework a stimulating, informative, and indispensable volume.
Chapter 3: Managing Vulnerability in Escalating Relationships
Managing Vulnerability in Escalating Relationships
I sometimes “play dumb” on dates, but it leaves a bad taste. The emotions are complicated. Part of me enjoys “putting something over” on the unsuspecting male. But this sense of superiority over him is mixed with feelings of guilt for my hypocrisy. Toward the “date” I feel some contempt because he is “taken in” by my technique, or if I like the boy, a kind of maternal condescension. At times I resent him! Why isn't he my superior in all ways in which a man should excel so that I could be my natural self?
And the funny part of it is that the man, I think, is not always so unsuspecting. He may sense the ...