Connecting Across Cultures: The Helper's Toolkit
Publication Year: 2013
Chock-full of fun exercises, surprising tips, and real-world case examples, Connecting Across Cultures: The Helper's Toolkit provides both students and professionals in health care, education, and social services with the skills to develop respectful, smooth relationships with clients and the community at large. The book offers communication tools to defuse defensive interactions, resolve conflicts constructively, and engage respectfully. Written in a warm, inviting style, the author shares her own mistakes as she explains what not to do and how to do it better. The book provides practical, hands-on strategies for connecting with people across differences related to ethnicity, religion, nationality, sexual orientation, disability, age, gender, and class. Because cross-cultural relationships involve extra challenges, this book will help you with almost every relationship you encounter.
- Front Matter
- Back Matter
- Subject Index
- Chapter 1: Diversity is Unavoidable, and that's A Good Thing
- Chapter 2: The Starting Place: Knowing who you are
- Chapter 3: Creating a New Awareness: What you didn't Learn in School
- Chapter 4: The Invisible Boundary: How Privilege affects your Work and Life
- Chapter 5: But Everyone I Know Agrees with Me: The Influence of Family and Friends
- Chapter 6: That's not what I Mean: Effective, Respectful Communication
- Chapter 7: Say what? Why Words Matter
- Chapter 8: Making the Connection: The Four Relationship Vitals
- Chapter 9: Keeping the Connection, Even when the Signal is Faulty
- Chapter 10: When the Golden Rule isn't Working: Respectful Conflict Resolution
- Chapter 11: Conclusion
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Hays, Pamela A.
Connecting across cultures: the helper's toolkit/Pamela A Hays.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-1-4522-1791-8 (pbk.)
1. Multiculturalism. 2. Culture. 3. Interpersonal relations. I. Title.
This book is printed on acid-free paper.
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This book is a product of all the expertise and insider knowledge so generously shared with me over the years by my friends, family members, students, colleagues, and teachers. I am very grateful to my writing buddy, Mary Ann Boyle, and to the following family members and friends for their support and helpful feedback on the manuscript: Hugh and Marjorie Hays, Libby Tisdell, Carolyn Kenny, Paul Landen, Miguel Gallardo, Josephine Johnson, and Linda Mona. I also appreciate Brad Klontz's encouragement. I am especially grateful to my husband, Robert McCard, for his unwavering support, encouragement, and helpful feedback. And I would like to thank the SAGE staff and reviewers, especially senior acquisitions editor Kassie Graves.
Diversity may be the hardest thing for a society to live with and perhaps the most dangerous thing for a society to be without.—1
Building and sustaining relationships can be challenging, and the more diverse the world becomes, the greater the challenge. Connecting Across Cultures: The Helper's Toolkit focuses on the information helping professionals need. With fun exercises, helpful suggestions, straightforward strategies, and realistic case examples, you will learn the following:
- Push-button words and phrases that can unintentionally offend and preferable alternatives
- Verbal and nonverbal communication strategies that build respect
- How to think about values in ways that minimize conflict
- In-the-moment steps for defusing defensiveness
- How to create a positive connection despite the challenges involved
Because good relationships are essential for success in human services, health care, education, and counseling, this learning will increase your effectiveness and success at work. And because cross-cultural relationships involve all the usual relationship challenges plus the extra-difficult ones, what you learn in this book will help you with all your relationships.
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About the Author[Page 124]
Pamela A. Hays is author of the book Addressing Cultural Complexities in Practice and co-editor of Culturally Responsive Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy. She holds a PhD in clinical psychology from the University of Hawaii and from 1987 to 1988, served as NIMH Postdoctoral Fellow at the University of Rochester School of Medicine. From 1989 to 2000, she worked as a core faculty member of the graduate psychology program at Antioch University Seattle, where she continues to teach once a year as adjunct. Her research has included work with Vietnamese, Lao, and Cambodian people living in the United States and with Arab Muslim women living in North Africa. Since 2000, she has been back in her hometown of Soldotna, Alaska, working in private practice and as a supervisor for the Kenaitze Tribe's Nakenu Family Center in Kenai, Alaska. She conducts workshops internationally and can be reached at http://www.drpamelahays.com.